How Forgiveness Can Improve The Quality Of Your Life

by Sheri

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How Practicing Forgiveness Can Improve The Quality Of Your Life

Have you ever thought about how forgiveness can improve the quality of your life? Forgiving is a tough thing to do, but when you find the courage to do it, it will free you from an overwhelming amount of negative energy.

If you are honest with yourself, you can admit that you have caused pain and hurt to others as well. Knowingly, unknowingly, willfully or not. We have all been hurt betrayed, disappointed.

Just thinking about any of those times can bring up old feelings of pain and anger. You might think keeping the memory and feelings alive will prevent the same situation from happening again. It won’t.


Do You Keep Pain Alive And Wounds Open?

Walking around holding onto resentment, grudges, and animosity will fuel the hurt. Many of us carry resentment for weeks, months, years, decades, and even a lifetime!

It’s not easy to forgive and forget, to simply let go and move on, but you know what? You should.

It is the only way to free yourself from the grip the pain and hurt has on you.

I realize that many people assume that if you forgive someone; you are saying what they have done to you is okay. Which of course it isn’t. You think to yourself,  “why should I let this person get away with their awful behaviour?” The answer? To free yourself from the burden.


When you forgive, you in no way change the past – but you sure do change the future. ~Bernard MeltzerClick To Tweet


Forgiveness Can Improve The Quality Of Your Life When You Learn Its True Meaning

Forgiveness is all about releasing the person or people who have hurt you, no longer allowing them to have control over you, your feelings, or your energy.  Let it go.

I know it is easier said than done, and I am sometimes guilty of not forgiving as quickly as I should. Forgiveness must be put into practice in order for it to work. It requires repetition. Forgiveness will give you both freedom and peace of mind.

Why would anyone want to choose bitterness and resentment over forgiveness?

Forgiveness demands courage and integrity, and forgiving makes it easy to give up your desire for revenge.  You know that karma moves in two directions right?  We sew the seeds we plant, be it good or bad. The choice is yours.

You can improve the quality of your life through forgiveness because when the negative feelings are gone, you can replace them with empathy, generosity, compassion, and kindness.


The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong. - Mahatma GandhiClick To Tweet


See your ability to grant forgiveness as a way of moving forward. When you can do that, you will allow harmony to enter your life, and be at peace with yourself.

It is for your sake and has nothing to do with the person who has offended you.


7 Ways Practicing Forgiveness Can Improve The Quality Of Your Life

Forgiveness Can Improve The Quality Of Your Life Forgive Yourself A Busy Bees Life


1.  Forgive Yourself First

You need to first be at peace with yourself before going about forgiving anyone else. There might be things in your past that you feel embarrassed about or ashamed of. Have you hurt someone or even a number of people, which you now regret? Forgive yourself and grow from your past. If you keep reliving your past mistakes, they will be forever present in your future.  How do you start the next chapter in your life if you keep re-reading the last one? Food for thought.



2. Let Go Of Negative Feelings

Negative self-talk as well as harboring negative feelings towards others will get you nowhere.
It sucks away your joy and productivity. This was a hard one for me to learn. In the past whenever I would think about someone who hurt me, all the negative feelings would come back up and I felt more hurt, pain and anger. The feelings I thought I had let go resurfaced, and were very much present.

When you forgive and think of those who hurt you, your feelings are no longer associated with negativity but rather,  a sense of calm, knowing you have released the pain and left it where it belongs. In the past. That is growth.


It's one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody. Maya AngelouClick To Tweet


3. Empathy Is An Important Skill You’ll Need For Forgiveness

You just never know what is going on in a mind and heart of another person. Even if they tell you, you may never be able to fully grasp it. That is what makes us all unique. Something that might seem petty to me, might cause another person rage.

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. Let’s not confuse that with sympathy which is a feeling of pity for another person’s misfortune.

Ever made a joke about someone and it turned out you were the only one laughing? Did you end up hurting their feelings?

Someone you know, a friend, or a colleague might be going through one of life’s tough seasons and may react differently than they normally would. They might be going through something you know nothing about, which may affect their sensibilities. It can happen.

However, if their behavior is repetitive and draining you, forgive them but think about keeping a distance.

Great friends or partners want their relationship to be solid, which means they aren’t afraid to talk through disagreements. You can argue with the intent of coming to a compromise and solution. This means you can agree to disagree sometimes, without letting underlying tension or negativity linger.

I personally don’t have time for unhealthy and unproductive relationships, do you?


Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness. - H. Jackson Brown, Jr.Click To Tweet


4. Acknowledge Your Role

They say there are two sides to every story right? Maybe three? I believe there is only one side to every story, which is the truth. There might be two, three, maybe even ten perspectives, but still, only one truth. Either way, you don’t have to be wrong for someone to be right.

Accept the part you played in the situation. As they saying goes, you can’t change what you don’t acknowledge. You may be completely and 100% innocent. But most likely you aren’t.


5. Learn Something From The Situation

No matter your experience, small or great. There is always a lesson to be learned.

Forgiveness will help you to improve the quality of your life because you are learning and growing. Change is constant, so don’t let disappointments get you down. Challenge yourself to do better, and be better. Your attitude is a small thing that makes a big difference.



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6. Time Is Necessary To Let Go And Move On

Time is not a healer, so no time doesn’t heal all wounds in that sense of the phrase.

Have you heard of Chronos and Kairos? Chronological time (the Greeks called it chronos) is the time on the clock we use day to day.  When we plan, schedule, meet, work, etc.

Chronos time keeps us moving throughout the day.

Kairos time is sacred time when you can we slow down to notice and be mindful of what is actually happening within us. It is about paying attention to the small things you usually ignore, so if any healing of time will happen, it will be in kairos.

You may need a few weeks or even months to get over tough situations.

Just remember, the longer you distance yourself from the person you should be forgiving, the harder it will be to work out the problem.

If it is a situation not worth rectifying, or too much damage has been done, forgive yourself for your part in it, forgive the person who has hurt you and move on. Don’t dwell on it for too long.

Take your time, but make sure you get there. You owe it to yourself.


The real gift of gratitude is that the more grateful you are, the more present you become. Robert HoldenClick To Tweet


7. It’s Not Always All About You

Do you know that when you choose not to forgive someone, other people who have nothing to do with the situation might end up hurt because they are affected by it?

Take this scenario. A group of three friends who spend ALL their time together. They go shopping, to the movies, chat on the phone, etc. Two get into an argument and stop talking to one another. Neither of them has one nice thing to say about the other.

All the great times and moments from a friendship of a lifetime, gone down the drain. Neither one wants to back down and forgiveness is not in the cards.

So what position does this leave the third friend in? A difficult and uncomfortable one. Avoid any unnecessary drama at all costs.

Have you heard stories about Thanksgiving dinners gone bad? Siblings stop speaking, cousins can’t stand the sight of one another, uncles and aunts at war.

Behavior like that will have an effect on other family members. Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciling with the person who upset you. Remain cordial instead of making everyone else feel awkward. Forgiveness is a process and a life well-lived is your best revenge.


Forgiveness is a virtue of the brave. - Indira GandhiClick To Tweet


Questions To Think About

Forgiveness Can Improve The Quality Of Your Life Questions Yourself A Busy Bees Life


  • Do you feel that you can’t forgive others until they apologize to you?
  • Do you hold grudges towards other people?
  • Do you still feel bad about things you’ve done in the past?
  • Is there someone in your life now you need to forgive?
  • Do you seek forgiveness from anyone?


 “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”


10 Great Ways Forgiveness Can Improve The Quality Of Your Life

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Sarah’s Sage Advice February 12, 2018 - 23:18

“You might think keeping the memory and feelings alive will prevent the same situation from happening again. It won’t.” I completely agree. In an effort to learn from the past we can actually hinder our future by holding grudges.

Jessica January 7, 2018 - 10:53

I find it very easy to forgive, yet I find it so hard to forget. At a time I realized not forgetting keeps the sore fresh in my heart. So, I learnt to forget. The fact is that it’s so hard to forgive. Thanks for sharing this with us. I have learnt a lot.

Hannah January 2, 2018 - 18:15

It’s so important to forgive yourself of things you were embarrassed about previously, like you said. It’s just going to drag you down x

Cassandra Mayers January 2, 2018 - 07:31

I partly agree, but also partly don’t. I have forgiven so many people in my life because thats who I am. It is easier as you say than having these negative feelings. But sometimes, I just get fed up of forgiving and forgiving and just being taken for a ride, because at the end of the day, if I keep forgiving them, they carry on and think it is okay to do what they want to.

thestyletune January 2, 2018 - 02:23

To be able to completely forgive is one of the biggest virtues of todays times. I hope i am able to fully forgive people!

yeahlifestyle December 31, 2017 - 06:07

These are great advice and we do agree that forgiveness does heal and help the soul. Hope 2018 brings more love and joy into your life.

Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 1, 2018 - 08:14

Thanks so much darling, I wish the same for you. xoxox

Kara December 31, 2017 - 03:55

I spent much of my 20’s in a circle of pain and resentment but forgiving people for their wrongs has really helped my mental health and I have never been happier

Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 1, 2018 - 08:15

Hi Kara, I am so glad that you have moved on and are now much happier. All the best this year. xoxox S.

myrabevlife December 31, 2017 - 02:45

This post is so on point and so true Sheri, I forgive people probably quick than I should because I don’t like negative energy but my sad part is forgetting, that I struggle with. The person who offended me might not be the trigger but something else but I am quick to remind myself its better to forgive than hold on to the anger

Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 1, 2018 - 08:16

Hi Myra, Oh I can completely relate to what you are saying. It is hard to forget, but we can learn how to do it by repeatedly moving forward from it all.

Laura Dove December 30, 2017 - 17:57

I love this and completely agree. I found it very hard to forgive my ex husband when our marriage ended but learning to forgive him improved not only my life, but our sons life too.

Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 1, 2018 - 08:19

It can be hard to forgive Laura, but once you do that, things just become easier. I am so glad you were able to do it and for the benefit of your sons! xoxo

Vicky December 30, 2017 - 17:56

I struggle with true forgiveness sometimes. It’s easy to say it but it takes a lot to actually mean it and act like you mean it too. But yes, it’s so liberating when you do let go completely and get in with your life!

Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 1, 2018 - 08:19

Yes Vicky you are right! Just saying it, will not free you the same way as actively forgiving.

Stylooo November 6, 2017 - 09:08

Strongly agreed with “let go the negative feelings”. I am always trying to change the thinking level of people who get negative very quickly. So we get positive environment together. Between i love to read your post and this is really helpful when people read it in the morning. They get positive energy for entire day.

Kristine Nicole Alessandra November 4, 2017 - 20:50

Forgiving someone who did you wrong is like having a heavy weight lifted from you. I admit, forgiving is one of the hardest things to do. However, I have experienced that carrying too much emotional baggage around can cause physical illness. I’d rather do what is godly – forgive those who wronged me than wallow in illness.

stephaniesherlock November 4, 2017 - 15:55

Great advice for anyone. Someone very close to me use to lash out at me, then I realized he was really lashing out at himself. It completely changed my perspective and reaction. Change your reaction and you could change the relationship. Now ours is full of love. There is forgiveness on both sides. Sometimes you don’t have to be right, love can be stronger.

arra odeza (@acodeza) November 3, 2017 - 09:23

Some says, it’s easier to forgive but hard to forget. I believe that if you really want to forgive someone from her wrongful acts towards you and your feelings, you will also learn to forget to be able to move on. It’s a package. Forgive and forget.

Sarah Kranz November 2, 2017 - 18:38

I think this is a really important topic, so thank you for focusing on it! Forgiving in many cases is critical to moving forward 🙂

Sreekar November 2, 2017 - 05:25

You are absolutely right. We need to introspect sometimes and acknowledge our roles in all situations too!

eliza November 2, 2017 - 00:55

Inspiring and noble, such a great post. Forgiving truly requires courage, understanding and a lot of kindness. Its an act not only to forget what hurtful things other’s have done to you but also consequence and other events that follows it.

Rhian Westbury November 1, 2017 - 14:08

Very powerful. I do think that when you forgive someone it can lift a huge weight off your shoulders and make you feel more at peace x

Yota Chelf Dortlouke November 1, 2017 - 13:07

You are so right! Moving on is easier said than done BUT we should find the strength to do it no matter what. Life will give us many chances to learn and grow and we need to be working on that constantly.

Kristi McAllister November 1, 2017 - 11:08

Forgiveness is typically my middle name. I’m just one of those people who can usually do it. Now, I say usually because there are times when i just can’t forgive a transgression. Take my ex boyfriend for example: over a 5 year period he cheated more times than I can probably count, was very deceptive, and got someone else pregnant. I stayed because he was a fast talker and extremely charming. We’ve not been together in a year and a half and I’m struggling with forgiving him. He’s apologized profusely since May, but I have gotten genuine apologies before and what he’s offering right now in terms of being sorry isn’t sincere. I know I have to let go of it so it doesn’t continue to weigh me down, but some sins are easier to forgive than others so to speak. I hope and pray I can let it go soon because I know forgiveness is healthier than holding a grudge. Thanks for sharing this.

MindCocktail September 29, 2017 - 13:43

I relate to almost every single word. I found forgiveness to be a very tough process especially because I needed to forgive someone who should have been a role model figure in my life: my own mother. As I always had a mixture of feelings regarding her, something inside me was telling me I was to forgive, yet something wouldn’t let me and I wanted it to be for real. I questioned how I would know if it were for real. The more hurt and confusion is built inside, the more complex is the process. But when it happened, I cannot describe in words the feeling of liberation both physically and psychologically/emotionally. Thank you for this post!

diaryofablackgod September 24, 2017 - 21:56

Forgiveness helps one sleep better at night

olajumoke_a October 9, 2017 - 05:09

Thanks for this post. The points are true and the first and most important point is actually first forgiving yourself as without that we can’t move on or even take the necessary steps to move on… stay blessed

Ana September 19, 2017 - 15:27

Grudges and the act of unforgiving is such a heavy burden to bear. It is also incredibly hard to forgive those that have truly hurt you. Thank you for this article, it will definitely help those that need it!

Anastasia September 18, 2017 - 05:39

I like the last point the most, and empathy. People act only based on their own believes, for example helping others because I possess kindness.

Ana Ojha September 18, 2017 - 05:09

What a beautiful post Sheri! I loved these lines and will be writing in my journal that ‘Forgiveness is a process and a life well-lived is your best revenge’. Sometimes it is hard to forgive those who all have hurt you but time is the best healer!

Shann Eva (@Shanneva) September 18, 2017 - 02:46

It’s definitely hard to do, but I completely agree with you that forgiveness will improve your life. So much energy is wasted on holding grudges, and once we let go, we can use that energy somewhere more productive. Such an important post.

ejnosillA/RedefiningHERstory September 17, 2017 - 19:37

I love this post and I agree. Forgiveness is key to peace and happiness. I try to live my life by these sentiments. Sometimes with relationships it is hard to forgive, but over time and full evaluation of my part… forgiveness always follows! great post!

kalliamanika September 17, 2017 - 16:55

You know, we always have to grow as individuals. I have noticed the most anger you hold in likfe, the more it affects you and I agree the best way to break free is to forgive!

helerinablogs September 17, 2017 - 11:54

Holding on to resentment and bitterness is so damaging for the mental health. I 100% agree with everything you’ve said here. Forgiveness doesn’t have to mean letting that person stay in your life, it just means you let go of it.

toastycritic September 17, 2017 - 08:35

I totally agree on all of this. I think people don’t realize that forgiveness is as much about allowing yourself the freedom to move on and let go as it is about absolving the other person of what they have done. We should be quick to forgive if at all possible. Many times it’s not easy though. For me the easiest way to forgiveness is through empathy. In understanding the why it makes it easier for me to forgive the what because I understand better where they are coming from. Doesn’t always work, but it does help.

Cassandra Rose September 17, 2017 - 05:12

I agree 100%! Sometimes, it’s super hard, especially when someone you love or admire hurt you. But forgiving people will get that heaviness off of your chest, as long as you don’t forget the mistake they made.

Sarah September 17, 2017 - 00:49

This is so true! I sometimes struggle to forgive people, but holding onto grudges usually does nothing but hurt me. Thank you for writing such an enlightening article!

Adetunji Otemade September 17, 2017 - 00:30

You’ve really written a powerful blog. Forgiveness can be really hard but it is necessary if you want a peaceful and fulfilling life.

Yukti September 16, 2017 - 21:49

Totally agree with you as forgiving someone is like helping ourselves because peace of mind is the biggest gift in the world. Truly said my Mahatma Gandhi that forgiving is not weakness but it is a strength how we can handle bad things and move on to good. Very motivating post.

headupgorgeous1 September 16, 2017 - 20:44

Such a powerful blog post! However It is hard to forgive for someone , who keeps repeating their mistakes ..

Claire (@clairebeary94) September 16, 2017 - 19:21

Great article. Love it.

MELANIE EDJOURIAN September 16, 2017 - 18:01

Wow that’s amazing timing. I recently forgave someone for something they did years ago when they appeared again in my life and it’s proven to be a good thing. I feel so much better and we have begun getting to know each other again.

Jasmin N September 16, 2017 - 17:50

I absolutely agree with this! Though, I’ve got two people in my life in my past that I’m not able to forgive them their doings. It doesn’t bother me at all.

jadoreledecor September 16, 2017 - 15:48

This is all so true. I’d like to add that forgiveness sometimes helps the person who hurt you. We can’t read hearts so we never know if the other person is also being tormented by their actions. This is especially true when they try to wear a brace face. I also want to to point out that forgiveness does NOT mean that their are no consequences. Many times there are consequences for everyone involved.

Suja September 15, 2017 - 20:59

Love the article. It’s an eye opener. Forgiving really makes you feel good about yourself. It’s a great attitude that can bring happiness and victory.

Flossie September 15, 2017 - 16:51

This is such an important topic, and I love your tips and suggestions for how and why it’s important to forgive. I admit that this is an area where I struggle at times, despite my best intentions!

Emily @ The Southern Belle Blogs September 15, 2017 - 16:46

I absolutely agree with this. The longer you hold on to anger, the more it becomes a part of you and the more it influences your decisions and festers within you. But when you forgive someone and are able to move forward, the easier it is to start healing on focus on yourself again.

Laura Dove September 15, 2017 - 15:44

I love this! I struggled to forgive myself after my second son died, I felt that I could have done more somehow, that perhaps I was to blame, and for ten years I carried that burden. Forgiving myself was a huge milestone and a weight lifted. xx

Lyka September 15, 2017 - 08:52

I totally agree with this. It may be hard to forgive someone, but once you do, it’s like lifting a heavy weight off of your chest. Thanks for sharing! x

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