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Is Valentine’s Day Really Worth Fussing About?
Roses are red, violets are blue, Valentine’s is coming, how prepared are you? To be honest, I don’t really care much for this holiday. Particularly because of all the fuss about Valentine’s Day. My favourite flowers – Sunflowers are unavailable at this time of the year anyway. Even worse, many people are worried about not spending Valentine’s Day with that “special someone”.
Should courtship, romance or passion be forced for a single day out of the whole year? It is 48-hours until the 14th and the fuss about Valentine’s Day increases every second. People rushing to get gifts for their partners, trying to make sure to find the “right gift”. Plans for dinner dates and marriage proposals are underway.
Me? I am laid-back and relaxed. You see, Valentine’s Day should be celebrated every day. Love never needs a date stamp.
February 14th is only a day that was created for people to spend money. Well, not really true…but hats off to Hallmark for another great way to make millions!
Why Do We Love Valentine’s Day?
Men are forced – okay not forced, let’s say “encouraged” to get their partners the nicest chocolates, flowers, even write a song or poem. Mostly because women LOVE to be made feel special and wanted, but we also love to make comparisons.
“What did he get you?”, “Where did you go out to dinner?” “Did he propose?”, “How much did the ring cost?” – Oh, the nerve of some people! Isn’t that completely inappropriate? 🙂 But yet we ask anyway because we are curious!
You’ve seen the YouTube videos and read the comments on Facebook. Couples breaking up on Valentine’s day because something went awry during planning and execution! The stress and the fuss about Valentine’s Day are beyond me. God help the guy who made reservations at a restaurant not up to his partner’s standards.
Mind you, I am in no way bashing love. I love to love! I just don’t think it has to be shown on this particular day alone. If we would do this every day we would never have to fuss about Valentine’s day. I never get sucked into the craze of expectations. Show everyone who is important to you how much you love them. All the time.
Each time you love, love as deeply as if it were forever. - Audre Lorde #love #ValentinesDay #couples #relationshipsClick To Tweet
Single People – Don’t Despair On Valentine’s Day
If you are single, there’s not much to fuss about on Valentine’s Day! If you are feeling lonely, you shouldn’t. Why? This is an opportunity and a day to show yourself love. Spend this day loving yourself. Indulge. Pamper yourself.
Self-care is so important for your mind, body, and soul. Tell everyone who asks that you’re spending Valentine’s Day alone. When you tell them, watch their faces and reactions.
I saw this happen the other day at the check-out counter in a store. Two people in front of me speaking. Girl A tells B she is spending Valentine’s Day alone. Girl B’s jaws drops!
She stares at A as if she just told her she had been captured by aliens three years ago, lived on Mars and returned to planet Earth last night. Girl B – “Valentine’s Day? Alone? Are you crazy? Why would you do that?” I laughed to myself. Why not? What’s so odd about that? Why not spend the day with the person you love the most? YOU.
If you haven’t already, make yourself a priority. Yes, we have families, jobs, partners, KIDS, pets – I know, I get it, I understand. You cannot be there for everyone else if you can’t be there for you.
Self-care should be at the top of your list, so you can function 100%.
How And Why Was Valentine’s Day Created?
Here’s how all this craziness began. The Romans held a little festival every year; called Lupercalia, a fertility celebration.
Women would put their names in an urn (yikes!) then men would draw names from the urn. Whichever woman’s name was chosen would be their partner for a year. Easy peasy right? What a great way to find yourself a partner. Not! Think of it as the old version of Tinder.
The rules of the festival were clear and concise. No need to fuss about Valentine’s Day.
Pope Gelasius came along and proposed to make Saint Valentine the patron of the new celebration he created to replace the Festival of Lupercalia.
'So, I love you because the entire universe conspired to help me find you. ― Paulo Coelho' Click To Tweet
How Do Countries Around The World Celebrate Valentine’s Day?
Estonia: Instead of giving your partner a gift, you give gifts to your friends. The day is all about friendship.
Japan: It is all about men! Women give chocolates to men and pamper them all day. Men – Thinking about moving to Japan?
Or better yet, how about Eritrea? An order is now in place by the Eritrean government. It says men are to marry no less than two wives or face imprisonment – allegedly!
South Korea: – Traditions are similar to Valentines Day in Japan except men and women receive gifts and chocolates from February 14th and March 14th!
Italy: Well known for its love for love, Italians celebrate February 14th with traditional celebrations of restaurant meals, gifts, and LOTS of romance. Most are gifted Baci Perugina.
South Africa: Many couples get hitched at Robben Island’s annual Valentine’s Day wedding celebration.
China: Love seekers visit the matchmaker statue in a temple to find love.
Austria: My home. Like in so many other countries, we give our partner chocolates, go out to dinner, receive flowers and so on and so forth, bla bla bla.
Sometimes the heart sees what is invisible to the eye. -H. Jackson Brown, Jr. #love #relationships #ValentinesDay #couplesClick To Tweet
What Are Your Plans For Valentine’s Day?
Redecorating your room to look like a love den? (*roll eyes here*), or renting a romantic movie? Making a chocolate lava cake? If you are looking to try a good cake, I highly recommend the Sacher Torte.
Sucks that this year the day falls on a weekday, so refrain from overdoing it with the wine.
Valentine’s Day can be stressful and disappointing if you’re in a relationship, and your partner is someone who doesn’t care about the day dedicated to love. Hang out with friends or family instead. Most important is that if it is a special day for you, then make the day special.
Here’s What To Do If You Are Unsure Of What To Do On Valentine’s Day
Even though it is not my favourite holiday, I can still find reasons why Valentine’s Day is worth celebrating.
Here are a few things I can suggest you do. If you are single. dressing up, eating delicious food, drinking delicious wine, and enjoying the company of friends can make for a great Valentine’s Day.
Practice Hygge by staying indoors and enjoying the time at home relaxing. Depending on where you live, it might be freezing cold out, so enjoy the cosy comfort of your own home. Watch your favourite series and indulge.
If you are in a relationship or marriage, treat your partner to show your appreciation. You don’t have to take your partner out to dinner or buy them a gift. Use this day to show a little extra love. *wink wink*
Whether you’re in love, never been in love, or being in love has gotten you nowhere, remember all of us need and want love. If you haven’t found it yet, don’t worry. The time will come when you least expect it.
Savour the day and look for all the good things in it. Be mindful and take things as they come.
Celebrate love whenever you want. Better yet, all the time.
Be it by yourself, with friends or alone, whichever way you plan on celebrating, have a great time.
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How do you celebrate or fuss about Valentine’s Day? Do you have any traditions you follow?
Share them with me in the posts below – maybe without “too much information” 🙂