Self-Care And Self-Love: Here Is How To Have Both

by Sheri @ Purposeful Habits

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Why Practicing Both Is Important For Your Mind, Body, & Soul

At the start of each year, lots of people are out there making New Year’s resolutions, promising to give up bad habits, be better, and well. This year, I am focusing on self-care and self-love, and setting short-term achievable goals I can meet. Many resolutions made on January 1st are forgotten by March. I learned last year why new year’s resolutions are destined for failure. Which is why I am taking a completely different route. My focus is working on the inside.

Self-Care and Self-Love Are Not The Same

So what’s the difference? Self-care is any activity we do to take care of our mental, emotional, and physical health. Self-care is the key to living a balanced life. Once, you find your own routine, you’ll know what works for you and it will make it easy to incorporate into your daily life. Soon you’ll be practising it without even thinking about it. To get started, plan out a 14-day self-care and self-love routine.  Write done how you feel before you begin, during, and after.

Many women take lots of relaxing baths, get their nails and hair done, massages and a spa day, exercise, meditate, the list goes on. There are things you can do during the day that will help you save time. From the extra time in the evening, dedicate at least 30 minutes for “me time” to yourself.


Self-Care For The Body, Self-Love For The Soul

Self-care and self-love taking care of your mind body and soul, find your happy place

Since self-care and self-love are not the same, you might practice self-care spiritually, physically, and financially, but neglect yourself emotionally. Have you ever asked yourself why we favour our bodies over our minds? What do we know about emotional care and psychological help? Shouldn’t we try to fuse the two?

I was on a train once, and two people were sitting across from me. The girl looked sad and as if she had been crying. The guy, I noticed, had a broken arm. She was saying “I feel so sad, I can’t take it.”, he said, “Oh stop it, it’s all in your mind!” I remember thinking to myself, how he felt when he broke his arm. Did the doctor say, “oh stop it, the pain is in your mind.” Of course not.

Never underestimate anyone’s pain, just because you can’t see it.

Do you know emotional neglect can lead to depression, anxiety, anger and addictions? We see a doctor when we feel sick or have pain, so why don’t we see a health professional when we feel emotional pain like guilt, loss, or loneliness? The more you love yourself, the happier and healthier you will be. You cannot give love to anyone if you don’t love yourself. You can’t give what you don’t have, right?

Self-care and self-love go hand in hand to help you realize your needs and fulfil them. Here are ways to practice both!


25 Ways To Practice Self-Care and Self-Love

Self-care and self-love taking care of your mind body and soul, exercise and yoga


  1. Smile.
  2. Organize your home and/or workspace.
  3. Take time for rest and relaxation.
  4. Use soothing essential oils. My favourite is lavender.
  5. Cut down on your caffeine intake.
  6. Get up earlier than usual and enjoy your morning tea in peace and quiet.
  7. Avoid the TV, radio, phone, and laptop for at least 45 minutes after waking up.
  8. Start the day with two minutes of meditation.
  9. Make a list of all the things you like about yourself.
  10. Go for a walk.
  11. Each night before bed write in your gratitude journal.
  12. Treat yourself.
  13. Read a good book.
  14. Practice saying “no.
  15. When you grocery shop say, “I am choosing this for my body because I love her.”
  16. When someone offers your a compliment, say, “Thank you” and mean it.
  17. Shut off your computer and cell phone off for an hour.
  18. Burn your favorite candle.
  19. Get rid of old items you have not used for 6 months or more.
  20. Treat yourself with your favorite dessert.
  21. Do something for the first time; like trying out a new restaurant for the first time.
  22. Eat while focusing only on your food.
  23. Do something that you’ve been putting off for a while.
  24. Grab some takeout and watch some of your series in Flannel pajamas.
  25. Slow down and be present.

Make Time For Self-Care and Self-Love

Both can be practised at any time, however, it works best if you make it part of your daily routine. Set aside time each day to practise even if it’s just a few minutes. Have more time, practice for an hour. Do not prioritize other activities over your self-care and self-love time. Once you do that, you move your health lower on your list of important things. It is important to switch off. Leave your work at work. Focus on you.

Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.” – Carl Gustav JungClick To Tweet


More Essentials To Add  To Your Daily Routine

I gave you 25 ways to practice both self-care and self-love, however, you will not be able to incorporate all of them into your day as you begin. This will be a gradual process that will take some time. So here are ten things that will take only a few minutes a day which you can do daily.  The top five are the ones I never miss out on doing.  Sure, it may feel weird at first but this will really feed your mind and soul. You will finally be your authentic self.

  • Speak positive affirmations to yourself. Your self-talk can make a difference in the way you live your life.
  • Practice gratitude because there is always something to be grateful for.
  • In the evening, think about the favourite part of your day. Let it put a smile on your face.
  • Breathe mindfully. In through the nose, out of your mouth.
  • Stretch, meditate or do yoga. Exercise your body muscles.

If you enjoy yoga, you might want to try one of these cute, yet comfortable yoga outfits. This is my favourite one for stretching and doing dance workouts, and looks great!

  • Write out a self-care plan for tomorrow – short-term achievable goals.
  • Take a hot bath or shower.
  • Take a nap.
  • Read a book.
  • Dream – Close your eyes and daydream.
“Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.”– Malcolm S. ForbesClick To Tweet


Here is a great TED talk I listened to a while ago, and love, that teaches us how to become mentally strong.

When you look back on your own childhood. What sorts of things made you feel loved?

Did you get toys and sweets to calm you down, or were you valued and given emotional attention? If your inner child is still missing love, then so are you. Embrace your feelings.

When you practice self-care and self-love, you will notice that you start living a life of abundance in every area of your life, you stop comparing ourselves to others, and allow for growth to occur.


“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” –BuddhaClick To Tweet

Embracing Yourself

I am glad that I have realised that that flaws don’t make up the entire person. So if I make mistakes, or others do, I don’t need to be overly upset about it. Mistakes and failures come along with being human, so it is alright to be vulnerable. You are the one and only source for your happiness. Give yourself unconditional love every day, no matter what.

Loving yourself unconditionally also means loving all of you, which includes all your flaws, strengths, secrets, and weaknesses. Don’t focus just on one aspect of your life when it comes to self-care.

Energize your body, nourish your spirit, and enlighten your mind.

Do you practice both self-care and self-love? Are you willing to give it a try?

Share with me in the comments section below.


Purposeful Habits xoxo Sheri



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Sigrid Says Blog January 6, 2018 - 23:00

I copied your 25 ways. I really need to better take care of myself this year, to smile more and to relax more. 2017 was a bit too stressful for me with my changes and new goals that I tried to achieve and failed at. Well, at least we get another chance this new year. 😀 Thank you!

Lynne Harper January 6, 2018 - 12:51

Im really trying to practice self care more this coming year. Be it taking time out for myself, walking, reading or going to more relaxation classes

hannahandfitness January 5, 2018 - 09:15

Very important. Some great tips here that are all very achievable too! 🙂

thestyletune January 5, 2018 - 05:25

Self care and self love fuel each other!! I want to practice not using any technology for the first 1 hour of waking up and say No more often!

Jill Fickling-Conyers January 5, 2018 - 05:12

I have a daily self care ritual that I love. It’s one of the best decisions I have ever made.

Maria January 4, 2018 - 16:31

I think this is one of the most important subjects out there! people truly underestimate how powerful selfcare can be for a healthy life, both mentally and physically.
For me a good walk on the park does wonders. Thirty minutes completely disconnected from the whole world are more than enough for me to relax and recharge my energies!

Emily January 4, 2018 - 16:14

I love the advice to set aside a little time each day to work on yourself. It’s so hard to do but so important.

WhatLauraLoves January 4, 2018 - 15:31

I absolutely love this post- what a positive start to the year. I like to practice mindfulness and ive started colouring in to help me switch off xxx

Emily Fata January 4, 2018 - 12:12

This is a lovely post! Thank you so much for sharing — I need to follow all of these things in my daily life in 2018 <3

Lovely Miss Lola January 4, 2018 - 09:26

This is such an insightful post. It can be so hard to balance self care and move with everything else in life, but it’s so important.

Nikki January 4, 2018 - 07:26

So many great tip! I recently took up meditation in the evenings to unwind and it has been game changer. Definitely helps me when I’m anxious or can’t get the day off my mind. I love the two week plan, great way to set up a nice habit of self care.

Liftlikeagirl January 3, 2018 - 12:43

This was so empowering and I need this so much. I do the physcial stuff but its the mental stuff and getting a good mindset to love myself.

Zoey McNeville January 3, 2018 - 11:58

I swear you read my mind!. This is exactly my same goal!. I can definitely work on not being on the computer first thing in the morning. I always try to get as much as I can done in the morning and that’s not always a good thing!.

countryheartdeb January 3, 2018 - 09:32

Self care is so important it’s one of the things I am definitely making more of an effort on this year.

Huub Decaster January 3, 2018 - 09:16

This is a good list. I need to do something indeed with the number 7.

Amanda January 3, 2018 - 09:03

Self care is so important. I never even though about self love as being separate, but you are completely right. My favourite self care practice is dancing to music. No matter how foul my mood is, dancing always makes me feel better! <3

kirstyralph11 January 3, 2018 - 08:27

I’ve been trying to go for a walk every day as it’s a nice way to calm the mind and relax. I tend to forget to focus on myself with a young baby always wanting my attention but I’m going to try and do this more this year as I felt emotionally drained last month.

Ola January 3, 2018 - 08:07

There’s so much talk about self care these days and understandably so. People are under more stress than ever before. I truly believe that there is more happiness in giving no than there is in receiving. So I try to practice that on s weekly basis. Then when I turn inward to care for myself, it’s a much easier and more satisfying process.

techpusher January 3, 2018 - 05:02

A woman at work went through pretty much the same thing as the couple on the train. Husband broke his wrist falling over something she had left out. She felt terrible for days and he just told her stop being a baby. For some reason men don’t see emotional pain and the same thing as physical pain

Stephanie Merry January 3, 2018 - 04:05

I’m really trying to practice more self-love and self-care this year, and I love these tips! x

All She Things January 3, 2018 - 03:58

Self care and self love go hand in hand. It is so important to know your worth!

Vicky @The Growing Mum January 3, 2018 - 03:15

Looking after yourself is so important at it makes your a happier person. I’ve started doing the gratitude thing before bed too and it’s amazing what you remember after what seems like a difficult day

Ana De-Jesus January 2, 2018 - 18:41

Showing myself ‘self love’ is something that I have struggled with in the past so I like the idea of learning to embrace myself and my flaws. Burning my favourite candles sounds like a nice way to show self love x

Jasmin N January 2, 2018 - 17:52

I really need to take some time for self-care. It’s something that I’m struggling with a lot.
Been avoiding my phone & all the internet stuff throughout the day & feeling better immediately.

happy nami January 2, 2018 - 17:05

I’m just writing my resolutions in these days. There are so many things I want to achieve and do but the focus is always on self-love and self-care. This is a very in-depth article by the way!


hann182014 January 2, 2018 - 16:52

I don’t do new years resolutions, but i do want to have some more self care

helenevlacho January 2, 2018 - 16:06

Practice gratitude while staying positive is something I try,(sometimes hard I could say) to follow everyday. Everything starts with a thought so it has to be a positive one!

Beth Berger January 2, 2018 - 14:55

Practicing self-care and self-love is so important to achieving other goal’s and I’m definitely feeling fired up to re-commit to them in 2018. Thanks for sharing!

jenny January 2, 2018 - 13:34

I never set myself Resolution’s anymore as I failed to keep them. I like the idea of generally making more time for myself this year though.

Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 2, 2018 - 13:36

That’s the thing with resolutions, and if you are only making them at the start of the year. Goals are better and on-going. “me” time will do you good. xoxo

Rebecca | AAUBlog January 2, 2018 - 13:11

I really love, this especially saying ‘no’. Think I will write a list of the things that I need to do to practice more self-care this year 🙂

Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 2, 2018 - 13:32

That is a great idea Rebecca. Once you get it down on paper, it will be clearer where to begin. Thanks for stopping by. xoxox

Rhiannon D'Averc January 2, 2018 - 12:34

These points are so important. I noticed the difference right away when I started using a gratitude journal. As a chronic illness sufferer it’s important to focus on good things and not let the pain become my life!

Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 2, 2018 - 13:31

Absolutely Rhiannon! You are so strong and brave for being able to do that. Wishing you all the best plus good health! xoxo

beautyqueenuk (@beautyqueen_UK) January 2, 2018 - 09:34

I really like the tips and so many of my friends have taken up meditation, so it does interest me x

techpusher January 2, 2018 - 08:47

I really love these kinds of posts. It so important that we take care ourselves. We often forget that

laurasidestreet January 2, 2018 - 07:03

These are some really fantastic tips and very doable. I agree often New Years resolutions fail but working on the inside is always a good idea. I love the tip on avoiding the phone and laptop when waking up – I really need to do that

Laura x

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