How To Be Successful At Embracing Changes In Your Private and Personal Life

by Sheri @ Purposeful Habits
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Change Is A Good Thing, So Why Do Many Of Us Shy Away From It?

We are all aware that change is hard right? Why? Well, for one, it is hard because we are creatures of habits, regardless if that habit is good or bad for you. We can all be successful at embracing changes if we choose to approach change as a challenge, and not with fear.  

I believe change is goo, and helps us grow.

It doesn’t matter if you are going through a small change or a big one, doing something totally different from what you are used to is sorta terrifying. 

I love structure, and since change represents uncertainty it is often hard to welcome it. It is easy to stay in your comfort zone, stay happy with what you are accustomed to, and can control right?

Resistance to change and uncertainty often makes things worse. To be able to adapt to change is both a survival skill and a success skill.

If you want to be successful at embracing changes in your daily life, see change as a breath of fresh air!  This will help you push through and move forward.

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Why Do We Consider Change A Bad Thing?

We have all high expectations for our families, business, career, friends and relationships. As we know, most don’t remain constant or last forever. That would be unrealistic and could leave us feeling sad, hurt, and disappointed.

As we go through our day-to-day routines, and through life’s seasons we will notice change everywhere. Or moods go from happy to sad, lonely to content. Our friendships and  relationships get stronger or become distant, our bodies change. We  adapt to new technology, travel, meet new people, experience new cultures.

Our experiences in life changes who we are.

So why do we consider unplanned and unexpected changes a negative?  Because we worry about and fear the unknown.

The sooner we learn how to adapt to the constant changes life throws at us, the better we will be at accepting them.  In turn we become successful at embracing changes in all areas of our lives.

The great news is that embracing change is that it’s an easy skill to learn.

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Here Are 5 Ways You Can Be Successful At Embracing Changes And Why It Is A Great Habit To Adopt

 

1. Be Open To Moving Backwards In Order To Move Forward

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What does that mean? Let me break it down for you like this. Ever seen an athlete compete in high jump? What do they do? They walk backwards away from the bar, then run towards it to take the leap. Without going backwards first, they could not jump high enough to reach success. ( Useless fact: The standing high jump is no longer popular, but was an athletics event featured in the Olympics from 1900 to 1912).

Finding new and better ways to do things, even if you have to go backwards first, can have an effective and positive result. To have the success we want in life, we sometimes have to do things that are completely opposite of what we know.  Nothing worth having in life comes without some type of sacrifice. 

Have you ever felt as if you are backtracking and heading in the wrong direction?

I’ve never driven backwards from my home to work, but I can only image how complicated and tough it would be. What I have learned is not to worry about the things beyond my control, and you shouldn’t either. The universe is preparing you for something greater.

 

2. Embracing Change Will Help You Learn More About Yourself

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When I committed myself to embark on this journey of self-discovery and personal growth, it completely changed my outlook on life, and the way I saw myself.  I enjoy aligning my life and work with what is essential.

Being mindful in every moment, gives you a better insight on what you need and want in life.  In turn, to live a more fulfilling, successful life. I was able to take full control of mine, and you can too.

If you find yourself saying “ I will never change” or “ things will never change” then it might be helpful to analyze why your thoughts and attitude towards change are so negative. To truly understand what is happening, dive beneath the surface and go deep. When you return to the surface, you may have a little more insight on the steps you need to be successful at embracing changes. 

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Let go of the negativity and alter your consciousness to allow more of the good to come in. Life gives us more options when we are aware of what our needs are. You will find out what you can handle and what you can’t, which helps you to figure out a better path to take in life.

One of the most tremendous obstacles to change is lack of truth. Be brutally honest with yourself so you can be successful at embracing changes that come your way.

 

3. Opportunity Will Come A Knockin’

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You are not forced to make a decision as you have the control, and not a sudden change forcing you to adapt. Take advantage of the opportunities that come your way, as real opportunities are the ones that we don’t immediately see.

They come by at the most unexpected, inopportune, times. Our attitude when opportunity presents itself determines whether that opportunity will make our lives better.

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When we do see opportunities, we often ignore them, or reduce the value of what is presented to us. Our attitude when opportunity presents itself determines whether that opportunity will make our lives better.

For example,  when you are reading a book, you may miss the big insight on the first reading. By the third reading, of the book that same insight might suddenly click, simply because you are in a place where you can appreciate it.

 

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What Signs Am I Missing?

How many times have you been offered a new job, to go out on a date, or even to go skydiving? How many times have you said no? Probably more times than you have said yes. Saying yes to opportunities can be a determining factor in terms of  successful at embracing changes.

We can miss out on opportunities because they often don’t look, feel, or sound the way we might imagine they would.

Let’s go with this scenario. You imagine yourself walking down the street on the Upper East Side. A TV show is currently filming and asking random people to answer ONE question for A MILLION DOLLARS – CASH! The odds of that ever happening, and you answering the question right is 1 in 292.2 million. – Still a chance right? Wrong. 

How about this one? A job offer is made to you at a startup company that employs less than 100 people. The position pays an OK salary, with the opportunity to grow into your dream job. Do you take it, or find a job you don’t want to do at a different company that pays a great salary?

Whatever choice you make, think about how you would feel if the first company turns out to be the next Facebook, or Twitter. Even a few tenths of a percent of the company, will go a long way when you are splitting up billions.

Evaluate your opportunity based on its potential to make you successful.

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Start Taking Chances And Enjoying Success

Risk-taking is scary, some of them definitely are. To achieve anything in life, we need to take chances. The beauty of taking chances, is that anything can happen. You might fall, get hurt, or be embarrassed, but what if it could change your life forever?

By taking opportunities you can change from wondering to knowing. You can feel at ease knowing you took the chance at the opportunity – not knowing what the outcome would be.

Is there an opportunity knocking at your door? Answer it with a ‘yes’.

 

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4. Change Will Help You Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone

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To go somewhere you’ve never gone, you must do something you’ve never done. In order to reach your full potential, you need to step out of the routines you are used to.

It is easy to be successful at embracing change with open-mindedness. Fall into an uncomfortable situation? It won’t matter because you will know how to deal with it.

Can we ever have life completely figured out? Nope. That’s a good thing. Yet, nothing should stop your from looking forward to exciting things coming your way.

I once was a people pleaser.  People pleasers are one of the nicest and most helpful people you will ever know. Why?

The word “no”, is not a part of their daily vocabulary.  

It was difficult to step out of my comfort zone. To look deep within to discover that this was a  symptom of a deeper issue. Self-value and self-worth. Or rather, the lack of it.

People pleasing and kindness are not the same. I needed to make a change, and to give up the bad habits that were robbing me of mental strength.

Dealing with OCD, I love a super organized life. Sudden changes in plan often left me in panic and anxiety attacks.

It took a long time to learn and accept that change will be here, no matter how much I resisted or avoided it. 

I had to leave my uncomfortable place to increase my acceptance to change, and decrease anxiety.  Of course, this will take time, years, but I don’t mind being a work in progress.

What I did was simple…

  • Stopped apologizing for everything
  • Said no when I had to
  • Rebuilt my self-worth
  • Avoided negative self-talk
  • Learned not to be so set in my ways
  • Positive thinking
  • Set clear boundaries

 

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5. Change Makes You More Compassionate

Change reminds us to be better and do better. It reminds and inspires you to keep up a positive attitude towards life. When you raise your levels of empathy and compassion, you are more open to listening and understanding.

Empathy is a quality that is integral to most people’s lives. The higher your level of compassion and empathy, the easier it is to cope with life’s ups and downs.

As time goes by, embracing  changes will come to you automatically. Even when it is a tough change.  You will grow to become the best version of you. It easy to lose sight of the feelings of others when there is so much going on in our lives. 

Change comes in many forms in our daily lives. It has helped me become kinder, more cooperative, flexible and vulnerable. Do you see differences between yourself and others in regards to willingness to change?

And there you have it. Five simple and ideal reasons that can help you to be successful at embracing changes.

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Commit To Self-Love And Allow Change To Bring Positive Things Into Your Life

Embrace change. Be brave enough to take chances. You have the ability to tell your brain what to do, therefore, you can decide what you classify as negative. 

This does not mean bad experiences you have had are now OK.  You can learn how to filter mainly positive thoughts through your mind the next time something sad happens. In essence, you are training your brain to approach difficult situations with a positive attitude, and not a sad, miserable, defeated and negative one.

 

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 We learn and grow daily, so change might happen at a slow pace, but it will happen. You can, and you will, get through your tough times.

After regular practice, you will affirm your ability to be successful at embracing changes, and as a result, freeing yourself from fear and worry. If life throws you lemons, the change won’t feel like fearful burden.

Remember, life’s situations don’t end, they change.

How do you deal with life changes? Are you open to it and embrace it, or are you hit with a stress bomb every time your life takes a turn? What methods make you successful at embracing changes in life? Share with me in the comments section below.

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nmgilb July 11, 2018 - 20:12

learning to embrace change was something that I had to do early on in my marriage. My husband is in the army so every couple of years we move to a new city where we don’t know anyone. We change every aspect of our schedules, the kids schooling, extra curricular… you name it, it changes. It’s so important to hold on to the constants to keep you grounded while adapting to all the change.

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Stephanie July 11, 2018 - 19:04

Change can be so hard sometimes, but as you mentioned, it’s often the only way to grow. My husband and I moved from Florida to Texas which was a huge change, but it ended up working really well for us and let us achieve some of our goals. It was scary and difficult, but we did it together as a family.

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Shabby Chic Boho (@terrishutterbug) July 11, 2018 - 17:08

I’m working on embracing change but I’m a work in progress. I don’t know why it takes me so long to get on board because I’ve always had a lot of success when I do change up when I need to.

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Kate Kreates July 11, 2018 - 10:45

Really enjoyed your post! Embracing change is not easy for most people… personally I love change as I bore quite easily!

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life June 25, 2018 - 17:09

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Mira June 17, 2018 - 01:20

I really enjoyed your insight about embracing change. Well said! No matter how hesitant we may be to move on or try something new, resisting change makes it that much harder on us. And being mindful throughout all that process most certainly helps us get to know our selves much better.

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Joy June 13, 2018 - 17:17

This was such a refreshing post to read! Yes, change can be scary, but it’s inevitable. It can be hard to embrace, but for the most part we experience significant growth after change. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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Aine Mulloy June 13, 2018 - 13:28

Not always the best with change, but trying to be better – I think a little planning can also make transitions easier

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Collins Michael Nwokolo June 13, 2018 - 08:12

I know it is difficult to embrace change. Your article outlined some essential key points though .

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nadaliebardo June 13, 2018 - 02:08

Change is scary, yet always necessary. I think it’s hard to let go and go forwards, but the pain of staying the same sometimes becomes too much to bare.

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Ana Ojha June 12, 2018 - 17:40

Change is the universal law of the nature. I totally agree with all the points that you have mentioned. It changes our perspectives towards life and broaden our horizon.

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C-Ludik June 12, 2018 - 08:30

Change never seems natural or that easy. We naturally repel it and often want to retreat back into our comfort zone… However embracing change in work and life is essential to growing as an individual and being a better person than who you were yesterday !

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indycavy0808 June 12, 2018 - 07:16

Love, love, love this! For me, change is hard to accept due to fear of failure. But it is the only way to make progress! Failure in change will always tell you what you are capable of in the present and what you could be capable of in the future! Great post!

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Cynthia Nicoletti June 12, 2018 - 04:00

Very interesting article really enjoyed it. I believe when making changes you need to be patient, Know for sure why you are making these changes.

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Astrid H Vlahakis June 12, 2018 - 03:56

Agreed that change can be challenging but often necessary for our development. A lot of what you described and the simple things you did, such as saying No when you have to, negative self-talk etc.. are imperative to keep our sanity in check. Thanks for sharing!

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Msddah June 12, 2018 - 02:47

Change scares the heck out of me. Funny how you dont realize you are changing and adapting as youre going through the situation and in the same time, once you get through one another pops up. And it goes on and on and on.

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Tina Hogan Grant (@TinaHoganGrant) June 12, 2018 - 02:22

Change scares so many people. They get comfortable in their zone. But most of the time the reason for change is a positive thing. Wonderful tips and advice.

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Tiffany La Forge-Grau June 11, 2018 - 21:46

This is such a positive and necessary post! Change is so important and I really identify with your advice. A lot of who I am is because my life took a turn, not for the worse, but for the better and it was my outlook that was messing me up, and now that I see clearly how positive that change was, it’s made a world of a difference for me. Such a great read, thanks for sharing!

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Kristi McAllister June 11, 2018 - 20:54

Change is one of THE hardest things for me to accept and embrace. I’m one of those creatures of habit that wants everything to stay the same. I know that there’s no growth without change, but I still have a hard time with it. Your post gave me much food for thought! Pinned!

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nlampert June 11, 2018 - 20:39

I totally agree that fear of change is essentially fear of the unknown. I’ve found that I’m better at dealing with change the more the change is wanted… like leaving my job to be self-employed was an exciting change so I chose to focus more on the excitement than on the fear. It’s dealing with unwanted change that I still have to figure out how to do.

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Gladys Parker June 11, 2018 - 03:13

I find change very difficult in fact I don’t do it, if, I can avoid it. I’ve pretty much always been this way. Then I found out the voice giving me all that fear was anxiety and when it turned to panic I withdrew, from everything. I have slowly started changing negative talk to positive talk and avoiding anything possibly negative. You know how to get through this as you have just told us. I can’t wait to read about your steps.

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Nina June 11, 2018 - 00:15

I’ve read that the only constant thing in life is change. It can definitely be hard to embrace. But like you said when you do, some cool opportunities come along.

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