The Most Important Lessons I’ve Learned In 35 Years

by Sheri

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Today is my birthday. Yayyy!

An excellent moment to reflect on the most important lessons I’ve learned.

I have had some wonderful life experiences, including ups and downs, but that’s life, isn’t it?

Learning from these experiences and realizing that happiness is a choice has been life-changing.

My journey of self-growth and embracing a minimalist lifestyle over the past two years has helped me see things from a unique perspective.


'Love life and it will love you back.'Click To Tweet


I have been able to embrace my authentic self and practice self-love. Finally.

I can’t believe it took me this long to do it.

Not only do I rely solely on myself to be happy, I also have become my own friend.

Doing this has helped me to let go of negative self-talk and practice speaking daily positive affirmations.

I’m in the best place I’ve been and life just keeps getting better.  I am grateful for everything in my life today.

The most important lessons I’ve learned so far have helped shape my thoughts and perspectives.

I feel more zealous for living. I feel free.


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As I mentioned, it is my birthday today – my 35th one to be precise.

I thought I’d share with you the most important lessons I’ve learned in 35 years.

Maybe you have learned some of the same, and if not, I hope it inspires and motivates you to embrace a simplified and happier life.

So here goes…….

1. The more you focus, the more you see….
2. Happiness is not only a habit, it is a choice.
3. Your reputation is more important than your paycheck.
4. Life will never be perfect.
5. Be kind to yourself.
6. Be kind to others. Always.
7. It is important to invest in yourself.
8. Learn to live with uncertainty.
9. It’s OK to fail – if you try again.
10. Learn how to say no.


A great attitude becomes a great day which becomes a great month, which becomes a great year, which becomes a great life. – Mandy Hale


11. It is impossible to make everyone happy.
12. Consistency pays off.
13. You can make things happen for you by speaking it into the universe.
14. Your history is just as important as your future.
15. Allow yourself to be where you are.


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16. You always have a choice.
17. Que sera sera – Whatever will be, will be.
18. Never displease yourself in order to please others.
19. Your dreams will reveal things to you if you pay attention.
20. Drink more water.


Do not let anyone ever make you feel like you do not deserve what you want. – Heath Ledger


21. There is love in compromise.
22. Pick your battles.
23. Nothing is ever wasted.
24. Always, always, always, listen to your intuition.
25. Maintain an attitude of gratitude.


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26. Accept that people change.
27. If someone tells you that you have changed, accept it as a compliment.
28. Choose your words wisely.
29. Know how to say sorry, thank you and I love you.
30. Kids learn more from their parents’ behaviour more than their words.


After a while, you learn to ignore the names people call you and just trust who you are. – Shrek


31. Your passion will become your purpose.
32. Seek quality in your relationships, thoughts and conversations.
33. Have confidence.
34. Follow your heart, it knows the way.
35. Never say never. Life is unpredictable.


'Good judgment comes from experience, and experience comes from bad judgment.'- Rita Mae Brown Click To Tweet


Among the most important lessons I’ve learned so far is that you can also see life as an equation.

Make additions to your life with people who motivate and inspire you to do and be your best.

Subtract those who fill your life with hurt, negativity and pain.

Multiply the people around you who love you unconditionally; and finally, divide the ones who do not appreciate you.


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I am a work in progress, still learning every day.

There surely will be new lessons learned between today and my next birthday.

All I can say is that I am excited for what is to come.

Can you relate to the most important lessons I’ve learned in life?

Kindly share them with me in the comments section below!

I hope your day is as great as mine.


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Chrissomu h December 31, 2017 - 13:25

The greatest lesson i hve learnt is to listen to your intuition*

alisonrost August 16, 2017 - 02:50

Such wonderful life lessons! Whenever I read these, I always wonder what the stories are behind them. While a decade older, one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned is to stop trying to be all things to all people. Right around the time I turned 40, I looked around and realized “something’s got to go, and it certainly isn’t going to be me!” It’s truly made all of the difference. x

Avneet August 15, 2017 - 08:53

Hi lori!! I loved the way you complied the lessons of your life in bits and peices, still connected to each other. Could you suggest me some books on inner growth.?

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life August 15, 2017 - 17:28

Thanks Avneet, but ,y name is not Lori.

Борка Шаула August 11, 2017 - 10:34

Happy birthday! I think your onto something! My favorite quote goes ,,She woke up every morning with the option of being anyone she wished. How beautiful it was, that she always chose herself.” Self love isn’t selfish it’s important, it’s not bad! You can’t love anyone if you don’t love yourself first!

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life August 11, 2017 - 16:15

I love this quote!!!!!!! Thank you so much for your feedback. I agree with you completely. 🙂

LoveIsConfusing August 9, 2017 - 20:40

So much wisdom….

Cassandra Rose August 8, 2017 - 05:40

I cannot stress how important lesson #7 is! Something as simple as investing in our own happiness can make SUCH a difference in your outlook on life. Thank you for sharing!

henajose August 4, 2017 - 19:04

I loved your post. I too am in my 30s and I can completely relate myself. I loved your lines where you connected maths equation with life.

Aly Tyghter August 3, 2017 - 14:17

These are great lessons! I wrote a post like this for my 30th birthday. It was a great chance to reflect on things that meant a lot to me.

Kristy L Reith July 31, 2017 - 12:05

This is wonderful! I’ve just really realized and started paying attention to #8, #11, and #18 over the past few years. The thirties are so rich with life lessons though! Happy belated birthday! I hope it was absolutely wonderful!

Jeenu Pillai July 29, 2017 - 11:38

I absolutely agree with everything you have written here. Some really wonderful lessons to be learnt.

hal July 29, 2017 - 11:08

hapy bday – its good that you highlight that having a positive outlook is worthwhile

Debra Hawkins July 29, 2017 - 08:30

It took me a long time to realize that happiness is a choice! I hope you had a most wonderful and fun birthday!

GorgeousAndGeeky July 29, 2017 - 03:00

Hope you had a wonderful birthday! Sounds like you’ve learned quite a lot. So glad you’re at a place that you can practice self love. It’s so important

eliza July 28, 2017 - 00:43

Belated Happy Birthday Sheri! I wish you more success and good health to come. I love those lessons in life which you put all together and I also believe in same thought that you mentioned “Be kind to others. Always.” – We never know who and where life lead us to, so I always strive to live with that principle. More birthdays and wisdom to come!

eliza July 28, 2017 - 00:40

Belated Happy Birthday Sheri!! I wish you more success and good health! I love those lessons in life which you put all together and I always believe in same thought you mentioned “Be kind to others. Always.” We never know who and where life is leading us so I always strive to live with that principle. More birthdays and wisdom to come Sheri!

bestiesnotepad July 27, 2017 - 21:28

I am 31 years old and can surely relate to many of the lessons here.
Happy belated birthday!

EG III July 27, 2017 - 18:07

My most recent birthday was also the Big 3-5! Happy Birthday to you and all of your lessons are spot-on! The biggest lesson I’ve learned over the past 35 years is to just “do me”…not the me that my classmates want to see, or parents want to see, or siblings want to see, or society wants to see..but the unedited, raw, uncut, completely pure version of me.

Witches Tell The Story July 27, 2017 - 16:37

Happy Birthday and hope you have had a great 35th Birthday. When I got to 35 that’s when I started with aches and pains

stephanie mitchell July 27, 2017 - 15:55

Happy Belated Birthday. Hope you had a wonderful day! Thanks for the amazing article.

Our Family World July 27, 2017 - 07:54

Happy birthday! I am happy to see you have learned so much through these years. Life is a never ending chain of both happy and not so happy experiences and these are the ones that will mold us to be better individuals.

Jordanne | Thelifeofaglasgowgirl July 27, 2017 - 02:54

Happy belated birthday, I love this post because I could learn a thing or two. I am starting to practice a lot more of these now as I want to grow and be a happier person all round. This is such a wonderful post.


Helene Choo July 26, 2017 - 23:48

Happy birthday!! Your tips are all very wise. Thanks for sharing:)

Alison July 26, 2017 - 22:32

Aw Happy Birthday!! I just love all of these little lessons.

Finja July 26, 2017 - 21:50

Awww, so much positivity here!! 🙂
x finja

hanaya602 July 26, 2017 - 21:40

#31 & #33 are ones I can relate to. Thanks and happy belated b-day!!!

Tiffany Rawling (@TiffanyRawling) July 26, 2017 - 16:08

First of all Happy Birthday! I hope you’ve had a brilliant day. Also this post is so good, I can relate to so many of the things you said. I definitely agree it’s impossible to make everyone happy, as hard as we try x

Tiffany x

Jordan July 26, 2017 - 15:59

Happiest of birthdays to you :). What an awesome and inspiring list. Still working on a couple of these myself but I feel like I learn a new one in every situation.

geegardner July 26, 2017 - 14:54

My Mum used to sing Que Sera Sera to me as a baby and I sing it to my two. Definitely a quote to remember x

Kamira Gayle July 26, 2017 - 14:27

This is a beautiful post. Happy birthday btw. I resonate with many of these lessons. Hmm …if there’s another lesson I’ve learned it’s that family isn’t always blood but sometimes your true family are your friends. Hope you enjoyed your day.

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:00

Thank you for the birthday wishes, I agree with you on family isn’t always blood. That is a good lesson to learn in order to avoid disappointment.

inbar July 26, 2017 - 06:47

great list, I’m afraid that it might be those advises that you need to grow into rather then just embrace, but I’m sure it can always help to hear in order to grow

arra odeza (@acodeza) July 26, 2017 - 06:23

Happiest Birthday to you! Thanks for sharing the lessons you have learned so we could also learn from them. I wish you luck and May God Bless you more.

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:00

Thank you for your kind words Arra! xoxox

Kiwi July 25, 2017 - 23:05

Great outlook on life love! Happy Birthday love I hope you get the love you give returned back to you in so much abundance.

MELANIE EDJOURIAN July 25, 2017 - 23:04

Happy Birthday!!!!! It sounds like you have learnt some very important life lessons that will benefit you greatly. I need to remember to say no sometimes as I tend to take on too much.

Alicia Taylor at July 25, 2017 - 19:15

Happy Birthday! One thing I learned (and I am a few years older than you are), is to find peace in quiet.

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:02

That is a great lesson Alicia! I should add that to my list for next year. 🙂

Heather DiNuzzo July 25, 2017 - 16:14

These are fantastic life lessons – I love that you shared them. You are wise at a young age!

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:03

Awww thank you Heather. I have a huge smile on my face now. 🙂

alyssa July 25, 2017 - 14:51

Great list! I just had a birthday this is inspiring me to think more about the past year and take stock in what I’ve learned!! Happy Birthday!!!

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:03

Happy belated birthday Alyssa!

Nicole July 25, 2017 - 14:45

Happy Birthday!! Those are all really great life lessons! I’m a July girl, too. My birthday is…oh wow, it’s in two days, lol! Kind of just sneaks up on you, doesn’t it?

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:04

Happy upcoming birthday Nicole! Wishing you all of the very best in life! have a great one. xoxox S.

sara July 25, 2017 - 11:30

Happy Birthday! These are great lessons that you have learned. Thanks for sharing these, I hope my children have learned these from me too.

Manish Kumar July 25, 2017 - 06:33

Hi Sheri,

Happy Birthday

Thanks a lot for sharing the wisdom you got through your experience.

It’s very important that one should be happy oneself without any reason without anybody. We don’t have control over others they may leave, reasons for which we were happy may dissipate. But if we learn to be happy ourselves it will remain forever.

Of course, “Love life and it will love you back”. It’s law of nature, whatever we do it will return back. Whatever we think that we will be that’s the essence of being positive.

I have learned a lot through your article.

I will tweet your post.

Thanks a lot for sharing.

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:05

Thank you Manish. You are so wise, your words all are so true. I appreciate your positive and motivating feedback.

Jess Holmes July 25, 2017 - 05:29

Well Happy Birthday! I’m about to hit my “dirty thirty” so I’m sure I’ll compile a list like this!

Kimberly @ Berly's Kitchen July 25, 2017 - 02:47

Happy belated birthday! I hope it was wonderful and that you enjoyed your day. This is an awesome list of lessons. I think #11 is my favorite. Still working on that one. 🙂

Adam the Motivator July 25, 2017 - 01:57

Happy birthday. A great list there. At the end of the day, as you say, it is entirely up to you if you want to be happy or not. I have noticed that myself too in the last few years but many years ago, gripped with all sorts of issues, I’d would not have allowed myself to become happy.

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:06

Oh Adam, I am so glad to hear you have learned this lesson. It will free you of worry and heartache. Always speak positive affirmations to yourself and you will see your world changing. All the best! Sheri

Yes Missy July 24, 2017 - 22:50

Happy Birthday! You have so many good points on your list, embracing a simplified and happier life is so much more rewarding.

Claudia Krusch July 24, 2017 - 22:47

I hope you had a great Birthday. I find as I get older I feel more confident in myself and care less what others think. I think daily positive affirmations have a huge impact on a person.

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:08

I am also learning this and getting there. I was so confident in my teens, then along came my 20″s and my self-esteem and confidence disappeared and I am only just getting it back. It is a part of my journey and I am a work in progress. So glad to read your words today, and know I am on the right path. Thank you Claudia. xoxo

Monika July 24, 2017 - 22:44

I love this! So much truth in those lessons learned <3 my favorite must be the last one though – Never Say Never. Life is Unpredictable. I couldn't agree more!

Katie Kinsley July 24, 2017 - 20:57

Happy birthday to you! I am still learning how to love my authentic self and I’m so happy that you are able to get there. It is very important to me to learn to love myself fully.

tamaralikecamera July 24, 2017 - 19:58

We’re nearly birthday twins, then, because my birthday is tomorrow! I love being in my mid-30’s. I think there’s wisdom I never imagined. I love all of your points!

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:10

Hey Tamara! Or should I just call you twin? I think the 30’s is a perfect time to step out of your comfort zone, really embrace who you are and life itself, and experience things with a new perspective!

Lisa (@blm03) July 24, 2017 - 16:39

Happy Birthday! These are all words to live by. I feel like the older I get, the more I understand myself and who I want to be in this world.

Pam July 24, 2017 - 16:11

Happy Birthday!! I love all of the things you have learned, but my favorites are , “Happiness is not only a habit, it is a choice.” and “Be kind to yourself.” I too, have learned these things in life. It’s always much easier to complain than it is to see the positive, and it’s easier to criticize yourself than praise yourself. Life is about how you see it and deal with it. I truly believe that.

jmanandmillerbug July 24, 2017 - 15:29

Happy birthday! You have a lot of great things on your list and I identify with a lot of them. I really like the one about happiness is not just a habit, but a choice. There are so many great reminders hear that and he supposed this for myself to remember.

Cathy Mini July 24, 2017 - 15:10

Happy belated birthday!! Loved these lessons you shared with us–so glad you are able to practice self-love! That is what I am working on right now

Tomi C July 24, 2017 - 15:10

Happy Birthday! Life is full of lessons and the one thing I’ve learned along my journey thus far is “love ’em anyway”. I loved your life equation. It kinda reminded me of my grandma saying some people are in our lives for a season, appreciate them in that season. Hope your birthday was amazing and here’s to a year full of blessings and light.

Kim LaCoste July 24, 2017 - 14:50

I don’t even know which one I like the best because I love them all. I love “Energy flows where attention goes”, which is just rewording some of your lessons. Have a great birthday.

lex July 24, 2017 - 10:37

Happy Birthday. hope its not coming late. do have fun…

Fi Ní Neachtáin July 24, 2017 - 09:04

Happy Birthday to you, I hope you have a lovely day! This was such a great post and I agree with the lessons, I’ve also learnt those things in my years. The happiness being a choice is one that really stuck in my mind.

Anosa July 24, 2017 - 08:41

Happy birthday and you don’t look a day over 25 girl but so happy for you and I have learnt similar lessons but you added more. I have always believed happiness is a choice and you can’t make everyone happy.

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:14

Awwww, thank you Anosa! I am blushing now. 🙂 xoxox

Toughcookiemommy July 24, 2017 - 07:14

Embracing your authentic self is a very important part of being true to yourself. We spend too much time trying to please others.

Kimberly Ann July 23, 2017 - 22:51

Happy Birthday! Wishes of love, fulfillment and a warm heart, many friends, new adventures and the ability to be in the moment!

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:15

Thank you so much Kimberly Ann. I really appreciate the words of well wishes and accept them fully into my life. 🙂 You are a sweetheart. xoxo S.

Lori Bosworth July 23, 2017 - 21:56

Happy Birthday! My birthday is in four days so this post is super relevant! There are many things I identified with in your list including learning to say ‘no’, being kind to yourself and that happiness is a choice!

Sheri @ A Busy Bees Life July 26, 2017 - 16:16

Hi Lori! Wishing you a wonderful and happy birthday in advance. Hope your day is a special one. xoxo

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