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I love finding ways to be more productive. When you learn how to triumph over stress, it makes it easier to get more done in your day without feeling overwhelmed. Learning not only to deal with stress, but how to conquer and triumph over stress means more me for you to do the things you love.
Today, Sandra Moncada, who is passionate about meditation, Pilates and beating stress. is here to share with you her strategies, tips and suggestions. It’s those little things that make a big difference. Enjoy!
Here’s the thing: You’re not the first to stress, and you’re not the last. But, you don’t have to be stressed.
If you allow the stress to stay inside of you, it will fester and pass along to your children, who are dealing with pressures from school and their peers. Instead of the futile attempt at hiding your feelings, transform yourself.
You have nothing to lose but your stress.
Make Time for Quality Time
You have probably wished you had more time, but if you think about it: It’s not so much the time you miss the moments you have missed. This means you must be intentional about the moments you want to share with your family. Stress robs your ability to be present with your family, so do something about it. I love using bath salts to relax in the evening.
Most families allow their moments to go by the wayside because they’re unwilling to do what it takes to fix their issues. Spending quality time with the family creates strong bonds. Let go of your other commitments when it’s time to be with your family. This means that while you spend time with your family, don’t think about work.
You’re wasting time. Focus on fun, creativity, love, and relaxation. Relax in your bed and keep it cosy and comfortable with this marled throw with Irresistibly-soft faux-fur pom poms.
Enjoy the sun by going on a picnic, have special themed nights, and do whatever you and your loved ones need at that moment.
Pause and Listen
As you grow, you will find others in your family are growing too. This means you need to spend regular quality time with them to know them. Don’t change your spouse. Marriage is difficult, but don’t make it harder.
We all have our quirks, and we cannot be perfect.
In the same way, we understand our lack of perfection, we must also free others from impossible expectations.
Think of the broader picture. There was something special in your spouse that drew you to them.
In the grand scheme of things, it’s of little consequence if they let the trashcan overflow.
We all have our strengths and weaknesses, and we need to help each other. Triumph over stress by letting the little things go. Instead of getting annoyed by the trash, just take it out.
Make a proactive step in communicating with your spouse about both of your needs and how to meet them.
Create an environment where everyone hears one another without judgment.
Listen to your family members and think of solutions. Your children will come to you with their problems if they know they won’t be judged for what they say. Don’t waste time being upset about silly things. Holding onto trivial issues causes resentment, and relationships can become toxic.
Fill Up Your Cup, Buttercup!
It is not selfish to do things for yourself. If your children asked you for water from your cup, you’d notice before long that you’d need to refill your cup. No one would say you were selfish for this. Likewise, refilling yourself is necessary. It is necessary for providing care to others, but you also need to do it for yourself.
Allow your family members to pitch in. You might be surprised by how well they handle house chores on their own.
Besides, your children are supposed to learn independence so that they can take care of themselves when they become adults.
You only have so much within you, and can’t afford to run on empty. it is essential to be intentional with scheduling time for yourself by finding the things that bring you to life. Take time to journal, do yoga, go for a walk or create.
Wake up earlier than normal for some alone time. Have some coffee, enjoy the silence and sunrise before the sweet chaos of your loved ones getting ready for school and work begins.
We’re always told to treat others well, but it doesn’t make sense to be kind to others and not to ourselves.
Always Invest in Yourself
There’s only one you in this world, which means only you can meet the world’s needs in a way no one else can.
If you are working in a place that does not make you happy or fulfilled, you are most likely in the wrong career.
It’s time to reevaluate what you want, and it’s never too late to do this.
We all have the capacity to hit the “re-do button”.To be the best you, you must discover who you truly are. It doesn’t matter how old you are. Don’t allow people to talk you out of your dreams.
There are numerous online resources out there, informal education you can pursue to make your dreams a reality and grow both as an individual and a job seeker or employee.
Going back to school or taking up a new hobby can help you discover new passions. Oftentimes, creating a poster board full of passions and likes reveals our inner selves. Don’t make excuses. The time is NOW.
Water is cleansing, healing, and it helps us to refocus. Just the sound of water is soothing.
Most of all, water relieves stress. Several cultures around the world incorporate some form of hydrotherapy into their daily routines. For instance, the Finns use saunas, and people in the Mediterranean recharge from the sun and seawater.
Water can help to ease pain, rebuild muscle, ease insomnia, cleanse toxins from the body, clear the mind, lower blood pressure and other benefits.
Even if you only have time to take a shower or a bath, make it good. Lock the door to the bathroom, light scented candles, get your favourite book and use bath fizzes or special hydrating soap.
I love using this aromatherapy diffuser. It offers a new and sophisticated way to fill your living space with the scents you love-simply add water and the essential oil of your choice, then turn it on.
Girl…You Need To Triumph Over Stress
You must take time to be you. Do what you love. Spend time with your family. Heal yourself to be the best you.
This may mean small changes in your routine, or it can mean a massive overhaul.
It may not come naturally. Your mind will fight you to continue with old habits, but you must steadily seek the truth. You’ve long known there was something inside you that needed to come out. Don’t ignore this.
Want to just spend some time relaxing at home? Why not?
Always do what pleases you.
Enjoy the process of your change. Change is not only constant, but it is also good.
Are you married to stress and need to separate? Have you got a strategy that helps you triumph over stress? I would love to hear it. Please share in the comments section below.
Author – Sandra Moncada is a cycling enthusiast, who frequently escapes to hang out with her literary and movie heroes. She is vitamin D’s biggest fan, who is passionate about meditation, Pilates and beating stress. When she’s not floating in the ocean or her outdoor pool, she loves to write about lifestyle improvements, self-development, and stress-relief methods.
Life can be so busy, I definitely needed to read this and remember to relax more.
Great tips, these! I am terrible for being stressed and overreacting. It’s something I have to work on every single day.
Such nice amazing read, will definitely be putting these into practice.
These are some really great tips for dealing with stress. I’m about to be a first time mom and remember my own mom making major sacrifices for us, and always pouring her cup out for us. It’s so important we remember to take care of ourselves too.
I absolutely needed to read this! I tend to overfill my plate and put myself last and I’ve hit my max! I need to get divorced from the stress that I’m adding to my plate! I love these ideas!
Stress is such a killer in our society today, we can’t always keep up and need to take time for ourselves – thanks for the reminder!
This was a good read! I have dealt with a lot of work related stress lately and appreciate your advice. Great post!
These are some great tips! im such a worrier and stressy person i need to take up these tips haha
Some really grrat tips. I agree with taking some time out to relax in a hot bubble bath. Its one of my fave ways to relax
I often stress a lot, so there are some great tips here to help me. Thanks for sharing
Stress isnt good and i think youve done a good job with these tips on how to overcome stress
These are some really great tips Sheri, you always come up with such useful and informative posts. I do not get stressed very easily but when it hits me I really like to acknowledge it and take care of myself by relaxing, taking a good soak, meditating and talking to my family and friends who understand whats going on with me.
I couldn’t agree more about wake up earlier than normal for some alone time. The silence is a sort of meditation, I supposed. Stress can be challenging to deal but recognizing the source of the stress is helping to overcome it.
As a new mom I stress over the well being of my child a lot. Crocheting is my way of relaxing and doing something for myself.
I could not agree more with the idea of quality time. It is so important as a couple to have that time to yourself, especially when you have kids as my husband and I have recently discovered. The water therapy is really interested. I aim to drink at least 2 litres a day as like you say it really does help with stress and stops you getting headaches x
Amazing tips girl! I used to get stress and anxiety really badly and these tips are exactly what I did when to get over it. It’s important to remember to take a step back, look at everything as a whole and then deal with the issues. Take one step and a time, meditate, and drink loads of water.
I loved reading this. I’m definitely married to stress can’t help it, I just get so overwhelmed. It was good to read this so find some tips to help!
A good long soak in the tub with soothing music and my favorite bubble bath is my way of relaxing. If I only had the luxury of time, I would do it everyday. But right now, I am perfectly content with doing it once a week. Stress can be avoided, we just have to find the right way to find relaxation and rejuvenation activities that would work for us.
Sheri, you nail it again. Its not that I just enjoy reading your post, But to be honest, I am refreshed, I relearn things that I sometimes or almost forgotten. Thanks for this empowering blog I hope you’ll keep inspired and write more powerful article for us readers.
I hate stress but stress just loves me to the moon and back!I try my very best to not let it affect me and cause illness. I usually wake up an hour or two earlier than the rest of my family so I can watch the sunrise, pray and enjoy my coffee in silence.
Very informative article and I think you are doing a fab job by bringing out these helpful ways to overcome stress in life.
Fab tips here. It’s so easy to get caught up in the stress of life and we really do need to pause and take more steps to self care.
What a beautiful site you have. But on the topic, you’re right… we must take time for ourselves to replenish. We, sometimes, have to lose ourselves in order to find our true being. I’m a firm believer in this, but I fail as so many do. All I do is work and family. I’m the last person I take care of. By the time I have time for me, all I want to do is sleep. So ironic.
I really needed to read this right now, thank you. I definitely let stress take over far too often x
It’s so important to make time for your own self care as well as caring for others. You need to care for yourself before anyone else.
These are fabulous tips to help keep stress down and with the holidays coming we could all use extra help learning to keep stress at bay….
Some really good tips and I am with you on all of them. Taking time to listen is perhaps the most important x
Stress is one of the most difficult things I deal with… Especially from work. So tips like this could be really helpful!
Love this post, there’s some great ideas here. I especially like the thought of waking up a little earlier for some alone time. Sitting in a quiet house with a cup of tea sounds like the perfect way to start a stress free day.
Pausing for reflection is key. Taking time out and investing time in ones self care is super positive – a hot bath candles and chilled music works for me x
Water therapy is really interesting. I don’t drink anywhere near enough water and I am always stressed!! I need to make more time for myself.
The wording of am I married to stress just smacked me in the face and woke me up. I don’t carry it with me all the time but sometimes I carry it with me longer then necessary. I have learned as I got older to do things for myself. Running off to a movie or lunch without anyone helps give me a new starting point.