7 Easy Ways You Can Improve Your Relationship

by Sheri @ Purposeful Habits
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Ways You Can Improve Connections In Relationships And Make Yours A Long-Lasting One

What is the magic elixir that makes some relationships last longer than others? Work, commitment, communication, and effort. In order to have a lasting and loving relationship, you need to cultivate it. There are many ways you can improve your relationship. If you are not 100% happy in your relationship, don’t just sit back and sulk, take action.

Do you ever feel as if creating successful relationships with our significant others and parenting children are two of the most difficult jobs we face? Yet we get no formal training in either.

Here are some tried-and-true tips to help you enjoy a long, happy, and lasting relationship.

 

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Did you know that the Maldives has the highest divorce rate in the world? Followed by Belarus, the United States, and Cuba. Couples go through life getting along when times are good; and fighting with, ignoring, or leaving each other when things get tough.

 

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Unfortunately, many couples believe that to seek help with their relationships means to admit a certain kind of defeat. Instead of opting for marriage counselling, or therapy, they would rather let it go. That says something about who they are as a person. Relationships aren’t necessarily meant to be managed on your own. If your relationship needs help, ask for it. Of course, if you have already tried everything you could possibly do, and it still isn’t working out, then I agree, move on.

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As a child growing up, the only relationship training we are given is the passive learning we get through modelling of the adults who live in our house with us and the media.

Our parents likely only received the informal training they got from their parents, and they from their great-grandparents and so on back through the generations. Couples are often willing to show their perfect relationship on the surface while deep down everything is falling apart.

Do you mirror your parent’s relationship today? Are you great and dealing with conflict or do you scream, yell and argue all the time? Children learn what they see.

Disagreements are a natural byproduct of relationships. It is virtually impossible for two people to come together and create a life without some of their ideals, values, opinions or day-to-day activities coming into conflict with each other.

The question becomes how you manage this conflict. You can improve your relationship by being honest about your challenges and areas for growth and development.



 

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Ask yourself first, how compatible you are with your partner. Opposite may attract at first sight, or initially, when dating, this formula will not take you the distance if this is the only reason you are with someone. It is a chemical attraction.

Compatibility is key for a successful, healthy relationship. Men and women approach relationships in different ways. This is why Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus right? There are many ways you, can improve your relationship, start by learning ways to actually hear each other, especially during conflict. Make your relationship a priority.

 

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1. REFLECT – Take time to look back, refresh your memories and remember what brought you two together. When times are difficult, lean back and rely on these old memories as your foundation and glue yourselves back together with them. Draw each other close, instead of distancing yourselves from each other.

 

2. DATES – Another one of the ways you can improve your relationship is to keep dating each other.  I know we need to set time apart for more “us” time. My sister-in-law’s jaw dropped when I told her we had only had one date night in 2 years! Yup! LOL. Do you ever feel like life is just too busy to go on a date with your partner? I know I do, but it is important to do it. Have an at-home date night if you can’t get out of the house. Get your creative juices going and plan a date night.

 

3. HAVE FUN – Remember when you first met your partner and things were silly, fun and easy-going? Then you moved in together, got married and things became serious. Lighten up. Rent a movie, an Xbox, a WII, anything that will get you guys laughing together again.

Are you relating to these yet? Let’s keep going…

4. FORGET – There is no need to always remember the bad things that happened during an argument. I am guilty of bringing up past issues, even after I have said I was over it. Do you need to work on bringing up old arguments? It is good to actively forget sometimes.

 

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5. SPACE – Do you like to have some space and time to yourself sometimes? People need time alone, and time with their friends. Yes, you are in a relationship or a marriage, but you must still be your own person. Be sure to give and take your fair share of space.

 

6. DISAGREE – Agree that it is okay to disagree on some issues, and leave it at that. You don’t have to agree on every single thing, and you won’t. There is nothing wrong with that, and the sooner you can embrace that, the less you will argue. Seek to understand before trying to be understood.

 

7. MEMORIES – Enjoy special moments, special anniversary dates and events. Do something special just for both of you, and if it is so enjoyable, a make it an annual event. Valentine’s day is coming up, so think of something great you can do. No need to be elaborate.

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A number of behaviours can predict when a couple is on solid ground or headed for troubled waters. Good relationships don’t happen overnight. If you incorporate these ways you can improve your relationship, you will start to see some changes happen. A relationship requires constant attention.

Establish rituals of communication to ensure the longevity of your relationship. A simple, please, thank you, and I am sorry never hurt anyone either. Falling in love is the easy part.

Relationships should never be 50/50, they should be 100/100!

Are you learning ways you can improve your relationship, or are you already at the peak and loving it?

Share with me in the comments section below.

 

Purposeful Habits xoxo Sheri

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Lauren Sheriff February 6, 2018 - 22:31

What a great read and great advice for newly weds! Thanks for sharing!

Lauren

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tanviidotcom February 6, 2018 - 12:13

I am not a parent but these are such good tips … for couple regardless!

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Helen Claire Little February 6, 2018 - 07:03

I love your tips and advice! I admit that my husband and I can get quite caught up in our daily lives to spend quality time together. Most of it we focus on our son. We have some nice stuff lined up for Valentine’s day though! I’m going to come back to your post for ideas!

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Strength and Sunshine February 5, 2018 - 09:40

Wonderful tips for people to keep in mind!

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amandafunk123 January 29, 2018 - 16:46

Great points! My husband and I are still dating each other…after 14 years!

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Natalie Linda January 20, 2018 - 17:28

Amazing relationship advice! I agree that date nights are so important. They give you a chance to reconnect in an intimate way and helps remind you of why you fell in love.

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Erick January 20, 2018 - 12:53

This is wonderful. Such great advice. I hope and pray that more than one person reads this blog, and your advice either leads to them having a healthier relationship or marriage or perhaps evens saves them from divorce.

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Namrata January 19, 2018 - 23:06

Loved reading your article. I agree that kids are watching us all the time and they are passive learners. So we must work on building strong and trustworthy relationship. Liked all the ideas you have shared.

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serena hale January 19, 2018 - 21:26

Dating is key. We keep dating each other like we did before we were married. Space: I like it but I do not get enough:)

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Tasheena @ SimplyTasheena.com January 19, 2018 - 20:23

I really enjoyed reading this post. I love all of the tips you provided. I agree that couples should take space.

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chelf January 19, 2018 - 14:34

what a beautiful and inspiring guide! Indeed relationships are hard wrk you need to cultivate them and be mindful! Date nights and having fun is so important on all stages of a relationship!

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Anamika January 18, 2018 - 11:00

Wow some great thoughts and ideas..loved reading your article! Like you said we need to keep working on it 🙂

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Fashion Panache by Bhushavali January 17, 2018 - 17:01

My doc was earlier working in Maldives and he told me about how there are so many divorces there! Now I’m coming to know its the world’s topmost! Its sad!!!
Beautiful points indeed. Yes, its ok to agree to disagree!

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lifewithjoshandkristyn January 17, 2018 - 16:02

Great tips to keep the spice going in a relationship. Such great tips to help keep up with a healthy relationship.

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thestyletune January 17, 2018 - 15:49

I agree our parents relationship subconsciously teaches us how we deal with ours, great tips!

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Melissa January 17, 2018 - 12:37

Such a great post! I think dates and forgetting are the most important. It’s important to still put in that effort and important to forget the stupid little things so they don’t build up into the big things.

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laurasidestreet January 17, 2018 - 08:06

These are some really good tips and like you said the thing is relationships take work! All of them too but people seem to be reluctant to put the work in. My partner and I are trying to make more time and go on more dates this year – it’s a good way to reconnect

Laura x

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Healy Eats Real January 16, 2018 - 19:56

Great tips at the end of the article! Love the approach and I agree that couples can disagree sometimes, it’s about focusing on the important stuff and really enjoying each other’s company.

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Healthy Mind, Healthy Body, Healthy Life - Lauren Atkins January 16, 2018 - 11:00

This is a wonderful post on an important subject! It is so important to reflect on the good times together, and to agree not to disagree!!!! whats the point in arguing?

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beccajtalbot January 16, 2018 - 10:31

I think it’s important that couples find the balance that’s right for them. Communication is also key – nobody ever worked any differences out without talking things through! x

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kittyslifestyle January 16, 2018 - 10:11

I do agree with most of them… We do argue with each other a lot but we have a strong bong 😀

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 16, 2018 - 12:37

hahahahahaha! A strong bong? LOL. That must make it easy to settle arguments.

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thestyletune January 16, 2018 - 09:15

Yes i agree with all the ways mentioned, also with the point that the relationship of our parents shape how we take ours!

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Healthwealthbridge by Dr.Amrita Basu January 15, 2018 - 13:01

Resolving conflict amicably is the first step to a healthy life .parents do teach us a lot .Thats why sometimes we need to unlearn first.Its not easy .Absolutely great post

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jill conyers January 15, 2018 - 09:18

One of the best things my husband and I have ever done was commit to date nights at least monthly. It’s so easy for “us” to get lost in being mom and dad.

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lavandamichelle January 15, 2018 - 08:42

As a wife of nearly 17 years, I understand the importance of a great relationship. These are awesome tips, that many people should follow in their relationships.

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Rose January 14, 2018 - 21:55

There are definitely more ways to fix a relationship then reasons to divorce. It’s just a lot more work that people are not wanting to put into.

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My Dee Dee's Diary January 14, 2018 - 20:04

I completely agree with the above points. So many couples break it off because they forget why they fell in love in the first place.

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Rhian Westbury January 14, 2018 - 16:50

I think having your own space and interests is good as it’s not healthy to do absolutely everything together. Make sure you see your friends on your own and do some things by yourself. Great tips x

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littleprinceleopold January 14, 2018 - 14:46

It’s hard for me not to run away when things get hard, but while I feel initially that running off is my first response, I know in my heart that to make things better you need to fix them right away, not let them fester and get worse. I try to work things out with my husband as soon as we both cool off, and it works pretty well usually. I agree that you have to work at it to keep things together!

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Kelly Peters January 14, 2018 - 10:16

Really love this post – we are all aware that we need to take care of our children, minds and bodies but the relationship is so important and often doesn’t get much conscious thought! Really nice way to reflect and start the year. Thanks!

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Charli Bruce January 14, 2018 - 08:56

What a great post with such great tips! Me and my partner have two date days/nights a month, so every other weekend and it’s really nice. It keeps things fun and we really get a chance to talk about things we wouldn’t really do at home x

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Laura Dove January 14, 2018 - 08:00

I love this, I think its very healthy to disagree, and even to argue sometimes. My husband and I argue way more than I ever did with my first husband and yet our marriage is way healthier!

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Annie B January 14, 2018 - 05:34

Some handy pointers here. I forget to do some of them, although.me and hubby are a very tight team

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Katie January 14, 2018 - 05:33

Fantastic post full of great tips. I’ve been with my partner for almost 12 years now and we haven’t had a real date night in forever. I think that’s where I’ll start 🙂

Katie xoxo

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Elizabeth January 14, 2018 - 05:08

Great suggestions these, but easier said than done, tbh. I can’t even remember the last date night my husband and I had…. two, three years ago? Who knows.

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:34

Same goes for me, it has been one date in two years but we are making our time also a priority on our list. Does not have to be a full day, or an overnight,but at least 3 – 4 hours.

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Chava January 14, 2018 - 03:26

Really, really great tips. So important for couple to do these things! I’ve been married for almost 13 years and we try to incorporate these ideas. I’m going to try to be more intentional about it. Thanks! (And I love all the pictures – so great to see people of color!)

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:36

Congratulations on 13 years and wishing you many more! I love adding people of colour to my post as it is a representation of me and my background. Thanks for stopping by Chava. xoxo

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Jasmine January 14, 2018 - 02:00

I was really surprised that the Maldives have the highest divorce rate. I thought for sure it would be U.S., then again I live in the US so I may just see it more often than the national average.

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Patricia-Ann Que January 13, 2018 - 20:49

what a lovely article and perfect for vday! i must say having ur own space is super important! one does not need to give up me time for someone else! i love shopping alone and my partner understands that as much as i understand why he enjoys home depot, it is like his sephora, lol

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:36

Hi Patricia, yes space is so important for peace of mind. xoxo

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Stargazer Writes January 13, 2018 - 20:20

Relationships are the best support that we can have in life. That is why it is important to improve it. Make that your priority.

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:37

Yes Jill I agree. Being in a good and healthy relationship strengthens us from day to day. xo

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Laura | What's Hot? (@WhatsHotBlog) January 13, 2018 - 18:32

I am really worried about mirroring my parents relationship actually so I’m trying to be careful NOT to act like them xD

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:39

Hi Laura! I agree, if your parents relationship was not healthy, then it is important no to mirror it. I am so glad you are aware and consciously not following the same pattern. xoxox

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Holly Lasha January 13, 2018 - 18:28

These are some great suggestions. It is so important to be intentional in your relationships.

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:39

I agree, and not only marriages, but in all relationships we have.

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Wanda Lopez January 13, 2018 - 16:28

Love this post so much. I’ve been married for 18 years and we do just about everything on the list. We love our date nights and when we can’t go out we’ll enjoy them at home. The girls already know and go to bed early so we can enjoy a movie with some wine and no kids on sight.

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:41

Hi Wanda! Yayyy for your 18 years. I am so happy for you. Nowadays when people have been married for over 15 years it always feel like a rare thing right? I am so glad you have found a way to incorporate your date nights into your lives. All the best for this year. xoxo S.

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Marjie Mare January 13, 2018 - 14:50

It is so true that couples with kids sometimes forget what brought them together once they have kids and they are so busy to make everything work. Thanks for sharing those healthy tips for busy couples to help keep their relationship alive.

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:42

Thanks Marjie! It can be so hard, but once we make it priority, everything then falls into place.

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SASHA HERNANDEZ-TICALI January 13, 2018 - 14:34

These are so very important and so very true! Once we become parents our relationships take a back seat while we parent and raise little heartbeats! Such a great reminder!

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:42

Thanks Sacha! xoxo

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lapequesalsera January 13, 2018 - 11:44

Oh yes, line gets so busy when you have kids and they basically take over your world and leave the loved one on the side… great article and definitely a reminder that quality time is the best when it comes to the people that you love!

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:44

Yes, my world revolves around my toddler completely, and his dad feels the same. So we are trying to be intentional in caring for our relationship.

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Brandi January 13, 2018 - 09:46

Great advice! I like that you added some stats and history to support your suggestions. Thanks for sharing!

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:47

Hi Brandi. It is important for me not to just state information, but let my readers know that there are statistics to support. Thanks for noticing. xoxox

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Joan Cajic January 13, 2018 - 08:32

I agree with all these and forgiving and forgetting is also very helpful because if we keep on remembering what the other did wrong all the time, nothing will workout and you can end up really miserable.

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:49

Exactly Joan. I have to be better with that too. Once we forgive, we should no longer bring up the past. xoxo

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quitelocal January 13, 2018 - 07:01

Nice post. If only we were born with these as presets in the brain.

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hodgepodgedays January 13, 2018 - 06:23

I’ve been with my husband for 25 years and we have been married for 17 years. We have our ups and downs, but we try not to let the sun set on an disagreement, everything else figures itself out or falls into place around that.

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Sheri @ A Busy Bee's Life January 14, 2018 - 05:54

Oh yes, we never go to bed angry. I couldn’t do it and would have sleepless nights. I prefer to go to bed knowing there is nothing to worry about.

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Kara January 13, 2018 - 05:03

Both Hubby and I come from broken homes and remember the pain we went through as children so we work at our relationship. It has not always been plain sailing but we have been together 18 years now and married for 13

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Linda Hobbis January 13, 2018 - 04:38

I do think it’s healthy to disagree and you’re better off getting it all out in the open – otherwise resentment builds and that’s a killer for a relationship.

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georgia boanoro January 13, 2018 - 04:06

I agree and I want to add that couples should also find projects on which to work together as a team.

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Crystal Gareau January 12, 2018 - 19:58

Great post with lots of helpful methods to encourage healthy relationships.

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